1. Infidelity. The no 1 reason for divorce in the US is cheating, frequently known as infidelity. Though a couple may guarantee to be steadfast to one another at the altar, due to all the reasons noted below, one or both partners may come to a decision to cheat if they are not satisfied in their marriage.

2. Different expectations. Some married couples realize several months or years into the relationship that their friend isn’t living up to expectations. If expectations are not made clear from the beginning of the relationship, then it could mean disaster for a marriage if both spouses fail to reach each other’s wishes.

3. Addiction. Addiction and substance abuse are serious issues which will destroy a long-term relationship. Addiction won't just affect one individual, it'll also have an effect on their partner and their children. If you saw any signs of substance abuse in a past relationship, it's better to leave that ex in the past instead of exploring the chance for a reunion.

4. Different parenting styles. People who have children in a wedding will tell you from extensive experience that it can regularly be difficult to combine two different parenting styles together. When spouses are required to share responsibilities and care for youngsters as a team, it can create a serious rift and antagonism if the 2 parties aren't ready to agree on issues of parenting.

5. Boredom. Many married people reveal that they become bored with each other after several years together. Couples that are compatible are able to stay together for life, but other partners may become disinterested, distant, and bored after years with the same person. The trick is to keep the relationship alive by exploring new interests together, following love, and planning long term goals for the future.

Understanding the most typical reasons for seperation is one of the first steps to getting your fiance or boyfriend back into your life.

This is an excerpt from Susan Alexander’s top selling Book How to Get Your Ex Back, revealed winter 2012 with the intention of helping you get your loved one back.