This is the question my hubbie’s bro asked me recently. Why did you break up was my reply when really what I needed to ask was how could you be such a donut to dump her?  It’s as if it was taken straight from the Magic Of Making Up book.

He looked a bit sheepish and let me know that he had met this girl at work and she smiled at him. Seemingly she is young, really pretty and looks rather like she belongs in Baywatch. So he, being a he-man type, decided he had to dump his lovely fiance to date this beach babe. Obviously, he shortly found out that she had been smiling at his friend and looked on him like he was something on her shoe.  

Well he deserved that but I think he had ditched his girlfriend for a less apparent reason. He loves her and was scared of making a commitment to her. He had started considering settling down and having youngsters and nobody had made him feel like this before. But he was concerned that being a vocation girl, this was not the future she had planned.  

Sadly he isn’t excellent at expressing his feelings so decided that it was better to finish the relationship rather than try to discover if his partner shared his vision of the future. Doh!  

Honestly, how can somebody so smart on a professional level be so emotionally backward. Anyhow his ex partner is a lovely lady who, God love her, likes him so I knew that getting back with his ex girlfriend was possible. It was also a great idea as despite his obvious faults, they make a great couple and he does love her.  

So after reading the Magic Of Making Up, I advised him to write her a letter. He decided an email would do but I insisted it had to be a letter. A hand written letter is such an old fashioned way of courting someone that it nearly always guarantees a positive response. So off he went to buy some paper and a pen and as I presumed complete the task to hand.  

And then he got back. “But what does one write?” He asked. Seriously he’d have let me write the whole thing for him. So i told him to inform her how he felt. An MBA from Harvard and he is having a look at me like I suggested him to tug out his finger nails. I said let her know you adore her and you are awfully sorry for the way you behaved and that you want to take her out this Friday to her favorite restaurant.  

Trust me that this approach from the Magic Of Making Up works miles better than a text, a bunch of roses and a takeout. Thankfully his partner knows him well and saw the funny side, and my bro in law is no longer asking “how to get together with my ex-girlfriend”.  

His new question is what to claim to his future father in law when he pops the question but I will leave my husband to address that one!

Further reading: Magic Of Making Up