Last year, I decided I want to find my soulmate online. I had avoided taking this drastic measure for several years but it seemed like everyone I know, including friends and co-workers, are signing on, creating profiles, and finding that special someone online.  If they can do it, why can’t I?

In Pursuit of the Right Notes

Like the notes on a sheet of music, life is rhytmic.  People come and go, but at some point you want to hear the full concerto.  I knew that when I could find that special someone, the missing notes in my life would be found.  An enduring addition can happen to your life’s rhythm when you have a soulmate.

Being new to the world of internet dating, I was hesitant about sharing my personal information, while looking for a soul mate online. I wasn’t sure of how to draw the attention of people. Neither was I sure of how much to share about myself. To help me overcome this obstacle, I began to search for the success stories of other users. The material that came up through the search was very inspiring.

I found out that out there, I wasn’t the only apprehensive first-timer. Cynderella and her current husband first met in a chat room. She wasn’t from the big city, hence her choices and options when it came to dating were fairly limited. Like me, her friends suggested she try internet dating.

IN just a week, Cynderella met MJ. He sent her an emoticon expressing interest and she looked up his profile on the dating site. What she saw intrigued her and she responded. This led to a month of back and forth emails and Instant Messages (IM).  The couple finally took it to the next level and met offline.

Since MJ lived in a different state Cynderella flew down to see him . As soon as she got off the plane she knew she had found her match. “I had been transformed, from being a nervous Nelly I was now a self-confident woman flying across the country to meet a man. I was truly empowered by online dating to take control of my life. Fortunately for me I found my soulmate and we both live together happily…and in the same state” says Cynderella.  Though there were no glass slippers, the music was loud and clear.

Surprises That Make You Happy!

I came across Mark’s story when I was continuing the search for my soulmate. Mark was a college athlete when he met H2O. While his friends and he were surfing the internet a pop up came onto their screen promoting an online dating site. They decided to explore the site as a joke.

Later that same night Mark’s friends made a bet with him. The bet was that if Mark could get a date from the online site within a month, they’d wash his athletic gear for the next one year. Mark decided to take these guys on and give a shot at winning the bet.

He made his profile and started chatting with women, most of whom were highly offended by the bet but Mark continued to be honest for as he says “I wanted to be upfront about the bet so that it doesn’t become an issue later on”.

As the end of the month drew nearer Mark’s hopes for success grew fainter. He would be washing the gear for not only himself the rest of the year – he would also be washing his friends’ gear.

Mark came across anattention-grabbing profile just two days before the end of the month. He wrote her an email, she responded immediately and before they knew it they were chatting the whole night. H2O lived in a nearby town and Mark set up a date to meet her at a local movie theater. She was not in any way perturbed by the bet. “She has a great sense of humor,” says Mark. “Within 6 months of having started dating we knew we never wanted to be without each other. We are now engaged and plan to get married in 2010.”

Loving the Music

While trying to search for love I was led to great success stories, but it also showed me the problems you can face if you are not careful. Mad4You met a wonderful man who matched all of her criteria. “I could not believe we had so many interests in common.” “After just a few chats, I was very attracted” says Mad4You. However, there were problems. Nothing stops a person who claims to be divorced from a previous spouse from being married now!”

The number of single parents looking for love online was also quite revealing. Many singles reported that they had found great matches with other single parents. In case you find true love, just make sure that your kids are compatible with it too!

Yellowtutu met the man of her dreams on an internet dating site. She was a single mother to 3 teenaged kids. Digthis, in turn, had 2 sons from his previous marriage. She corresponded with him for several months before letting her children know she had found someone.

On the first date Yellowtutu’s eldest daughter fell head over heels for Digthis’s younger son. He also found himself in love with her and their secret meetings of over a year, began without the knowledge of their parents. At the time when Yellowtutu and DIgthis agreed that they weren’t perfect for each other, the children shared their story.

“It may not have worked for me but I am able to justify my experience with this man and not feel I wasted my time. My daughter and his son have 2 fabulous children and have been happily married for over 3years now” says Yellowtutu.  It dawned upon me that that when you’re online and searching for your soul mate absolutely anything becomes possible.

Yes…rhythyms are an integral part of life.   Pay close attention when you find your soulmate, as I will when I find mine.  The notes will become fuller and the music will swell.