If you can’t quite come to terms with your recent split and are suffering. You need to avoid any of these things if you desire to get your ex back. Most people will end up doing one or the other of these simply because they know no different.

1 - Spreading lies about your ex

You will ruin any chance you have of getting together again with this one. If they were spreading lies about you, how would you feel about that? I know I would be gutted. If that happened to me there’s no way I’m getting back with my ex.

2 - Trying to make your ex feel jealous

This tactic can work if you know what you are doing and when to use it. But jumping straight in after a breakup and trying to make them jealous will just make them feel all the more distant from you. You can easily get the wrong reaction here, instead of a little jealousy they may just feel disgust and decide it’s over for ever.

3 - The stalker

Do I really need to say anything at all about this one? I do, ok then. At best you are going to come across as needy and clingy, which isn’t going to help. Worst case scenario you can get your self into trouble with the law, possibly even a jail sentence. Imagine what that’d do to your chances.

4 - Revenge is sweet

If you are harbouring thoughts of revenge then you must ask yourself how badly you want to get your ex back. If you are prepared to do the dirty on them in any way at all you can’t really love them as much as you think. If you love someone you won’t hurt them, period.

5 - Calling & texting constantly

Being a text pest is nearly as bad as being a stalker. Constantly pestering your ex with texts and calls could be deemed as a form of torture. This is not the look you are going for. Best case scenario they ignore the calls, worst case they change their number. Then you’ve screwed any chance of future contact.

You now know a few things to avoid doing if you have desires to get your ex back. Some things will increase the odds in your favour but they aren’t them, so avoid them.

A good bit of advice is to take a bit of time to get your head together and formulate a proper plan. If you are in control of your emotions you give yourself a greater chance to get your ex back.

When I split & wanted to get my wife back I turned to a step by step system that was so easy to follow a child could have done it.

Getting your ex back should be your choice, and not left to fate.