If you’ve recently split and decided being single is not all it’s cracked up to be. There are a couple thing that you simply must not do if you have designs to get your ex back. Most people fall into the trap of doing these no-no’s and ruin any chance they have.

1 - Telling lies to others about your ex

This one will kill any chances of getting your ex back stone dead. Turn the situation around and imagine they were spreading lies about you. I know I would be mortified if my recent ex was doing this. If my ex were telling lies about me then that would be the end of it, for good.

2 - Trying to make your ex feel jealous

This tactic can work if you know what you are doing and when to use it. But it won’t work when you’ve just broke up and you are clearly in bits and they know you will try anything to get your ex back. This can backfire big time. The jealousy you are looking for may turn to revulsion and they then know it’s over for good.

3 - The stalker

Do we even need to discuss this one? But just in case we do. The best you can hope for is to be seen as desperate and needy. That doesn’t help you at all. The worst you can be seen is downright frightening and potentially dangerous. This could easily lead to an arrest and I don’t think I need to tell you what that’ll do for your chances.

4 - Getting revenge on your ex

Revenge may be sweet but if revenge is on your mind do you really want to get them back? If you are prepared to do the dirty on them in any way at all you can’t really love them as much as you think. If you love someone you wouldn’t hurt them.

5 - Pestering them with calls or texts

Being a text pest is nearly as bad as being a stalker. Constantly pestering your ex with texts and calls could be deemed as a form of torture. This is not the look you are going for. What if they were to change their number instead of just ignoring you? If they do that there’s a good chance you lost them for good.

So, we now know a few things not to do if you want to get your ex back. Some things will increase the odds in your favour but they aren’t them, so avoid them.

A good bit of advice is to take a bit of time to get your head together and formulate a proper plan. With your emotions under control you give yourself every chance of steering your ex back to you.

When I split & wanted to get my wife back I turned to a step by step system that was so easy to follow a child could have done it.

Choose to get your ex back, don’t leave it to fate.