If you suspect that your partner or spouse is not being faithful or is having an affair their are many methods that can be used to find out the truth. This article will cover some of the basics that anyone can do with know special equipment or training.

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The first thing that you should do is keep a detailed record of reported activities of your partner or spouse. Write down the times, dates, places, other people involved, excuses given, etc. Your notes will become invaluable as you compare what is said with phone bills, credit card statements, ATM withdrawals, talking to other people, etc. A spouse that is cheating is very likely to change thier story, and will try to challenge your memory when you confront them, a detailed record of everything is extremely important for this reason.

Keep track of all incoming phone calls. Record the phone numbers, and both date and time of the calls.

Go through the trash, his or her wallet, purse, pockets etc. when they are not around. If your partner is going to restaurants, bars, movies or anywhere else with their suspected lover there will be receipts and they will surely want to get rid of them. There is the possablity that he will be reckless placing them in the trash at home or hiding them. If you find anything that you are suspicious of or cannot explain save it as evidence or write down the details and put the receipt back where you found it so that he/she does not get suspicious. Your partner is already being secretive so do not let them know that you are suspicious of them or they will go to even greater lengths to cover their tracks.

Plan a surprise visit to work, or come home at unexpected times, or tell your partner that you have to work late, but then come home early, etc..

Keep track of your partner’s mileage, receipts, credit card statements, atm withdrawals (unaccounted for cash), phone records, etc.

If you can, check your Partner’s call log. Be on the look out for a phone number with an unusually high number of calls. Remember, many times the cheater will store the other person’s number as a ficticous name.).

Unless you have enough evidence to make your case you should never confront your spouse. And never reveal all of your evidence at once. Most cheaters will simply make up a story that they think fits the evidence that you present to them. But, if you withhold some evidence, and let your spouse/partner create a story, it gives you the opportunity to use the remaining evidence as leverage. By strategically withholding evidence, your spouse will start to question exactly how much you know, increasing the chance that he or she will tell the truth.

If you do find something out of the ordinary try not to approach your spouse until you have enough evidence to get hi/her to come clean.

Think for a minute about how your partner might try to dismiss your accusations (we were just joking around, I was just flirting, it was a misunderstanding, we are just friends, nothing happened, etc.). You can gather evidence ahead of time if you can predict what thier response to your aligations will be allowing you to counter what they say.

The important things to remember are, be diligent in your investigation, keep thorough records and save anything and everything.

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