You see your significant other. That same old familiar feeling hits your stomach just the same as it does when you see a car crash happening seconds before it actually does. You can just sense the break up speech and you just know that there are going to be some hard feelings left in the open. The sensation might last anywhere from days to forever.

Remember meeting the wonderful person you met last year. You couldn't wait for the next dinner or the next dance. Each word that came out of her mouth was adorable and her sense of humor was simply wonderful. You had all the same preferences and the world was made by musicians and Willy Wonka. Somewhere along the line, however, evil had crept its way in. The roses have seemed to wilt away. The romance fizzled. He pops his gum and it sounds like someone scratching a chalk board. The way she crinkles her nose reminds you of Mrs. Piggy and sex is non-existent.

It’s believed that in every relationship, there’s at least one time where someone considers The Break Up. Most try to figure out how and why it turned sour but you rarely find someone willing to fix it. It is of course important to try and figure out what happened. But don't waste your time dissecting it and putting it under a microscope. Knowing how to fix things is the most important factor.

There are 3 Fix Methods Doomed to Fail:

1. The Stubborn and Prideful Method
Why does it have to be me that changes? Why should all the work done in this relationship be done by me? This way of thinking will definitely make sure that nobody makes a change and one person plays the role of the victim. Then the couples are pitted against each other.

2. A Mexican Stand-Off
I'll go to counseling, if he does. It is always the I will whatever she will. This will certainly ensure that both people are miserable if the relationship continues and no matter who breaks their stare, breaking up is certain.

3. Bait and Switch
You'll change if you love me. The sender of this message is wanting to lay all the blame on the receiver until they realize the fact that "I should not have to change, you should love as I am"?

The real method that actually works, is so simple that it even sounds a bit like an old cliché. You need to make changes to YOU. You have been lost in the relationship. The relationship overshadowed you and you’re stagnant in the cesspool of denial and hatred. But, that can all change!

The first step is remembering the existing YOU before the relationship. That is the person that he/she began to fall in love with. It was not simply because you picked your shirt up off the bathroom floor or remembered to pick up the milk. They fell in love with you because you were great at being YOU.

Second, let go of negativity. Forgive and forget is an important statement that needs to be learned. It is the key. Believe me, once you have worked on you, things will be much easier. The arguments only make matters worse and allows the negativity to come back in to the relationship. Before you continue on with the same old fight, think about trying to say something new? Don't you really just re-play the same record in a new location.

Finally, execute! However, make sure that you are making the changes for you and only you! Keep in mind, you can't pretend to be a person you are not. If you pretend or do it for your partner, it will not work. The great thing is, you can start today.

You will begin to see remarkable changes in your romantic life and it should be an almost overnight change. You will be seen by your partner as the person they first met. And, you'll be busy being you. Breaking up will no longer be the answer.