Nanette Geiger, Law of Attraction Relationship Expert, writes… Contrary to widely held relationship advice that’s out there on the internet, asking your potential mate a series of interview questions is one sure-fire way to turn her off and have her looking for the door.

Seriously, put yourself in someone else’s shoes, if they asked you questions that you’d expect to hear on a job interview. Would that make you feel comfortable? I don’t think so. The relationship advice you get from a man’s point of view, may not work from a woman’s perspective. From a woman’s point of view, a real man is a man who can communicate about what he wants and how he feels.

It’s more prevalent than ever for a real man to speak his mind and communicate openly from her heart. Open communication is a valuable trait and a turn on for most women.

Whether you’re looking for a casual relationship or someone to spend the rest of your life with, you must start from square one. For the best tips and Love Advice for Men the most important thing to know is what you want.

1. Knowing What You Want

What qualities in your date or mate are you looking for? Get clear about what those qualities are and you’ll have an easier time knowing when you meet her. Is he funny, does he think you’re funny? Is it important to you that he likes sports? Is he interesting, well-travelled? What about sports, hobbies, politics, or food?

When you have an idea about what you want you can start sampling from what you encounter in the world or in the relationships of your friends. What do you admire about the friends who have successful relationships? What are the elements that turn you off in other peoples’ relationships? When you’re not afraid to get clear and be straight about what you want, trust me, you’ll be much more able to know when you’ve encountered Mr Right.

2. Be Flexible

When you’re flexible about how, when or who shows up, you remain open more possibility and how much easier it is to attract the right one. I’m not suggesting that you compromise or settle for less. I’m suggesting that you stay curious about ‘what if she’s even better than I can imagine?’ It’s possible to get even more than you asked for. That’s what happened for me. I got clear about what I wanted and I stopped listening to everyone else about how hard it was to meet eligible partners.

3. Let Go of the HOW

When you let go of the “way it’s supposed to happen” you allow the universe to works its magic. Though that may sound Woo-Woo, the truth is when you have a firm opinion about “HOW it supposed to be,” you limit yourself. You’re also in a resistant mode, which does nothing for the attractor factor.

4. “BE” the Person You’d Like to Meet

That’s right. You got clear on the qualities and values you want in your lover. Now the question is, “are you anything like the person you’d like to meet”? I hope so. If not, you know what you have to do. Become like the person you want to meet. Then you’ll be a much greater match for your sweetie.

When you’re in the seeking mode, it’s much easier to find them when you know what you want. So get clear, go with the flow and be the kind of person you want to meet.